The full article is found at The Blaze This is not an endorsement on everything found in the blaze. This is not an endorsment of everything Matt Walsh stands for. But he is the one who talked about the reality of pornography: It`s not masculine to watch other people having sex. This fact, if emphasized and understood, will keep many young men from roasting their brains watching porn and those who are addicts, will find it easier to stop it.
I know men aren't the only ones who look at porn, but they are more likely to develop the habit. About 500 times more likely, in fact. And, anyway, I don't personally understand the female compulsion to indulge in porn the way I understand the male compulsion. I have to leave that subject to those who can offer a better insight into it.
For men it must be said that porn emasculates us. In the case of married men, it's easy to see how this happens. After all, the one thing we need most from our wives is their respect, and nothing will drain the respect out of a marriage quite like a porn habit. It's the wife's duty to respect her husband, but it's our duty to be respectable. Yet there's no respect in porn or around porn or near porn. Respect cannot be found anywhere in the proximity of porn. It's necessary that the people on camera have no respect for themselves or for each other and that the man watching has, at least in the moment, no respect for the people on camera or for himself or for his wife. Meanwhile, the wife, left alone while her husband releases his sexual energies elsewhere, will struggle to have respect for anyone involved in the transaction, especially her husband.
But married or not, porn will hinder a man's ability to discover and express his masculinity. Porn feeds on all of the worst compulsions in men and requires us to ignore or completely eradicate all of our noblest instincts. Men are supposed to be protective, not exploitative. Active and energetic, not passive. Honest, not deceitful. But porn calls us to be the latter in each case.
I believe that the emasculating effects of porn run far deeper than we can imagine or I can sufficiently describe. What I can say is that emasculated men are, by definition, focused inward. They pursue that which brings them pleasure, at any expense to everyone around them. They don't seek to become stronger, wiser, or more virtuous. They seek only to feed their vices, and the more they live that way, the more they shrink and shrivel and lessen themselves. Porn is not the only cause of this emasculation, but it's a significant one. Probably much more significant than you or I can comprehend.
With that said, it must also always be reiterated that men who struggle with porn are not bad people. It's very simple for a person to start down this road as an innocent and curious kid, just doing a little extracurricular anatomy research. But once you open a portal to that world — a world you didn't understand at the time — you will slowly dissolve into it.
It's tragic, really. Kids are exposed to this stuff so early — what chance do they really have? Many of them lack stable parental supervision, but even the ones with attentive parents are still going to be damaged the moment they first stumble into the bowels of the internet. They'll be changed and scarred by it immediately upon being exposed to it. And they'll develop feelings they don't understand and compulsions they hardly have the tools to resist. And then to compound the problem, society tells them it's all OK. It's harmless. It's fun. All the familiar and flimsy rationales. They'll want to believe those rationales, and who can blame them if they do? And eventually they'll become adults not with mere porn habits, but with porn lifestyles.
It's not fair. It's simply not fair.
But it's not hopeless, either. As men, we don't have to be caught forever in the clutches of porn. We can get out of it. But to begin that process, we must be honest with ourselves
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